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Wouldn’t world be better without questions?

Wouldn’t world be better without questions?



















Well none of them is true, barring the first one.

But have you noticed something here? – A pattern of getting rewards, accolades, promotions, prizes, likes for the ANSWERS you provide. Not for the QUESTIONS you ask.

The gap between “That was a thoughtful question” and “That was a great solution” is widening.

We become wonderfully efficient at solving problems, even if they are the wrong ones to solve

So, what’s the need for asking questions?

Well there are certain benefits

  • By enquiring about the projects & processes, we can surface out the lateral problems which could have killed our proposed solution
  • A good question can create an "aha" moment, which can then lead to innovation and growth
  • Questions keep us in learning mode rather than judgment mode
  • Personal questions can help you find your true purpose and passion
  • Questioning can help us survive in the ever-changing world – Which technology should I embrace? Which skill should I learn? How does this new product work?
  • Follow-up questions can help you get deeper, meaningful answers
  • Not questioning means following someone else’s rational, beliefs blindly or maybe even following the history blindly. Imagine how much would have missed if we kept on following the things as they were
  • Questions help us in making connections. Remember those business meetings or networking event or that casual chat with next seat person on the flight? During those times asking questions help us initiate a conversation which can become a possible connection


Now asking questions make some sense? 
But wait I almost forgot to share the real intent of asking questions.

What? You believed all the above reasons are the only benefits of asking questions?

Well, questions are the subtle way of showing an intent. They are those indirect ways to communicate your feelings towards a person or his work.


Intent behind questions


To get the answer –The basic intent of asking a question.

“Where are we on the benchmarking project?”
“It’s completed”
“Fantastic, Thank You”



·      To test you – Most of the How questions fall into this category
“Where are we on the benchmarking project?” 
“It’s completed”
“How are you going to relate it with the alternate benchmarking we did last month?”
This will showcase your preparedness, alternate scenarios thinking capability.


·      To accuse you
“Where are we on the benchmarking project?” 
“It’s completed”
“What are you going to do to about the extra man-hours we took?”

It sounds like “The late delivery is your fault. I blame you.” 
Conversations about who’s to blame are rarely useful, certainly not when there’s work to be done to solve the immediate problem


·      To get you off their back
Questions will be asked to get you more data, more runs, more proofreads in order to delay things

“Where are we on the benchmarking project?” 
“It’s completed”
“Thanks, have we run pass the same before securities & legal times? Also, can you check for me what’s the industrial benchmark standings on this project?”


·      To express disapproval
“Where are we on the benchmarking project?” 
“It’s completed”
“Thanks, but why have we used Monte-Carlo simulation while running this project?”

Here it’s not a question of the type of simulation. It’s more like – “I disagree with your use of Monte-Carlo simulation”


·      To exert power
“Where are we on the benchmarking project?” 
“It’s completed”
“Can you give me a couple of reasons of not following this benchmarking report”

In most of the cases, such questions are meaningless and only used to exert power


·      To make a statement
“Where are we on the benchmarking project?” 
“It’s completed”
“Ok, and how many folks are you expecting to tune to our presentation today?”

It’s more kind of statement expressing the concern of thin audience during the presentations


Imagine without questions how would have such subtle cues be delivered?

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